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Finding the Beauty in Reframed Stories

March 4, 2023 by Stephanie Leave a Comment

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Sometimes, the stories in our heads need a new frame.

Recently, I visited my home town to visit family. It was a week of hard conversations intertwined with impromptu moments of fun. However, truthfully, I was longing to return to my own home. I felt tired, emotionally and physically drained, and always get a bit restless at the end of a trip.

In addition, a snowstorm blew in to town on the day I was leaving. Having travelled the route home multiple times in bad weather, I wasn’t overly anxious. But I wasn’t looking forward to it either. So I packed up my belongings in order to try to get home before dark.

I had just said good-byes and had my car running to keep it warm for my departure. What I didn’t know was that my car automatically locks the doors after a certain time period. When I went to open the door, I realized it was locked. There I stood, in dispelief and frustration, while the snow forcefully pelted my car and my body. Now what?

My only option was to call a keysmith. On a Saturday. In a blizzard.

I made the call, feeling the frustration of my self inflicted actions. And then I waited for what seemed like an eternity. During that time, I conjured up all kinds of thoughts about the person that was coming to my rescue: the imagined reasons for why it was taking so long, the money that was being made because of my error. I created a story in my head that dismissed the context of my situation, created by me. Instead, I focused on the faults of the locksmith.

As I happened to glance out the window, I saw her. Looking into the face of someone reminds us that they are a real human with an actual life story-of which I know nothing about. She apologized for the delay, expressing the hazardous weather as being the reason. And, in the midst of opening the car door, she shared her concern for my trip.

As I drive home, I was convicted of the story in my mind that I had created. That action was worse than locking myself out of my car. It was an affront to another human being who was about to cross my path to help me.

While I am not naive to the fact that humanity often takes advantage of others’ afflictions, I also realize that we are also have a connection to each other that is literally life giving. Her skills and my financial contribution helped each other. Reframing the story changes the way we view our life moments and each other. We see unexpected glimpses of beauty when that happens and a new picture appears.

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Sometimes, I go to Target and virtually keep them company as they shop for items. Once in a while, I accompany them on a drive through line to their favorite fast food restaurant. Other times, I walk with them back from class to the dorm. There is no agenda outside of simply connecting and listening. And then there are moments where I am put on speaker mode and I sit in silence while homework is worked on. The reason? To simply sit in their presence.

These moments could easily be perceived as inconvenient and mundane. Truthfully, the calls sometimes interrupt my agenda. However, it is a blessing when your big kid initiates connection. It is something I never want to take for granted.

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This is the second time the landscape changed next door since our family planted roots here twenty four years ago. Each time, the new life sprouts up in different ways. Currently, the sights and sounds of young children remind me of where I once was and where I am now.

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I love living in an intergenerational neighborhood. Because I need it. Revisiting the seasons of life through new narratives brings me joy. I share in the excitement of the neighbor girl losing her tooth and laugh at her story about the tooth fairy forgetting her tooth. That happened in our house too.

My children are now young adults. People say “the days are long and the years are short.” That feels true. But I am thankful to have the opportunity to relive some of those days with a new generation. It reminds me of the welcoming spaces created for life to bloom, theirs and mine.

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This wasn’t the first time, we ventured into the town of my paternal roots When my children were young, we occassionally drove through the town. We drove past relative’s homes and I pointed out favorite destination spots. However, the questions grew deeper and the curiosity expanded as they grew older. Connections to itheir story have been formed.

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These are the moments that I do not want to take for granted. Navigating our story together is a gift.

#familystories #parentingyoungadults
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#Redbudwriters
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